Barry and guest Kris Kelso delve into the topic of imposter syndrome, a common experience of self-doubt among high achievers, especially entrepreneurs. Kris shares his journey as a business owner without formal training, highlighting the challenges and self-doubt he faced. Barry, drawing from his extensive experience as a CEO, reflects on his own encounters with imposter syndrome. They discuss strategies for overcoming these feelings, emphasizing the importance of embracing humble confidence over proud insecurity. Kris also talks about his book, which aims to help others recognize and combat imposter syndrome, and the transformative power of coaching.
Barry and guest Kris Kelso delve into the topic of imposter syndrome, a common experience of self-doubt among high achievers, especially entrepreneurs. Kris shares his journey as a business owner without formal training, highlighting the challenges and self-doubt he faced. Barry, drawing from his extensive experience as a CEO, reflects on his own encounters with imposter syndrome. They discuss strategies for overcoming these feelings, emphasizing the importance of embracing humble confidence over proud insecurity. Kris also talks about his book, which aims to help others recognize and combat imposter syndrome, and the transformative power of coaching.
Definition and Impact (00:00:21)
Kris explains imposter syndrome, its prevalence, and its effect on his entrepreneurial journey.
Barry's CEO Experience (00:02:22)
Barry shares his own struggles with imposter syndrome during his early years as a CEO.
Learning from Mistakes (00:03:30)
Barry recounts a pivotal moment realizing his lack of legal knowledge during a meeting.
Comparison Trap (00:05:47)
Kris discusses how success can lead to feelings of inferiority through comparisons with other successful individuals.
Proud Insecurity (00:08:12)
Kris describes the concept of "proud insecurity" and its dangers in professional settings.
Humble Confidence (00:09:58)
Kris introduces "humble confidence" as a healthier alternative to proud insecurity.
Kris's Book Journey (00:11:24)
Kris talks about writing his book on overcoming imposter syndrome and its impact on readers.
Entrepreneurs and Imposter Syndrome (00:14:24)
Barry questions why entrepreneurs are particularly susceptible to imposter syndrome, highlighting their risk-taking nature.
Entrepreneurship and Self-Doubt (00:16:16)
Kris discusses the constant feeling of being unqualified and the learning process in entrepreneurship.
The Perception of Success (00:17:39)
Kris reflects on how accolades can mask the underlying self-doubt entrepreneurs often experience.
Mindset Shift (00:18:41)
Barry and Kris explore the importance of curiosity and recognizing oneself as a lifelong learner.
Reframing Failure (00:22:02)
Kris emphasizes viewing failure as part of the learning process rather than a setback.
The Power of 'Yet' (00:23:09)
They discuss how adding 'yet' to self-assessments can shift perspectives on skill development.
Book Writing Process (00:26:01)
Kris shares his approach to writing a book, emphasizing the importance of meaningful content and audience feedback.
Writing a Book with a Coach (00:30:39)
Kris discusses how hiring a writing coach helped him organize and structure his book effectively.
The Importance of Structure (00:31:41)
He emphasizes the value of a well-organized outline for creating a cohesive and engaging book.
The Role of a Writing Coach (00:32:45)
Kris shares how his writing coach provided guidance and feedback throughout the writing process.
Overcoming Perfectionism (00:34:51)
Kris reflects on his struggles with perfectionism and imposter syndrome while writing his book.
Imposter Syndrome in Coaching (00:35:42)
Barry inquires about the prevalence of imposter syndrome among Kris's executive coaching clients.
Coaching Small Business Owners (00:36:57)
Kris shares examples of clients overcoming self-doubt and achieving business growth through coaching.
The Coach's Perspective on Imposter Syndrome (00:40:10)
Kris discusses how coaches also experience imposter syndrome and the nuances involved.
Evolution of Coaching (00:43:58)
Barry asks Kris about the changing perception and acceptance of coaching in leadership roles.
Coaching Models in Organizations (00:46:35)
Discussion on various coaching models and their application within organizations, including group and individual coaching.
Diversity of Conversation (00:47:39)
Barry expresses appreciation for the varied topics covered in the discussion, including book writing and coaching.
Tip for Overcoming Imposter Syndrome (00:48:05)
Kris shares the foundational tip that vulnerability is key to overcoming imposter syndrome and gaining respect.
The Power of Authenticity (00:49:41)
Emphasizes that being honest and open about self-doubt fosters connection and respect among peers.